‘A’ is for Acceptance
So here we are.. onto ‘acceptance’. And here is the dictionary definition: acceptance əkˈsɛpt(ə)ns/ noun
1. the action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered.
2. the process or fact of being received as adequate, valid, or suitable
So what can we take from that.. in the sense of nurturing our own personal happiness?
Self-acceptance! Self-acceptance is so important. None of us are perfect – indeed far from it. But it is incredibly important to accept ourselves as we are warts and all, particularly in this day and age with the drowning influence of Social Media. It is no good constantly focusing on the lack, faults, or weakness we see in ourselves – it does not help at all and in fact can be incredibly destructive. Particularly when we are making unrealistic comparisons. Often we are comparing ourselves with artificial images or lives projected by others and we find ourselves feeling let down or inadequate. This is hugely energy depleting and offers zero benefit to our wellbeing as in the process we are simply over looking all the wonderful things about ourselves and our lives. Of course if you know you have to deal with something, make some personal improvements, by all means deal with it, better yourself and I believe there is always room for improvement in all of us but do not dwell on it too much. Do not torture yourself mentally if you struggle, or fail, this is all part of life.. mistakes happen and failure is normal, we cannot possibly succeed at everything all of the time. The key is to learn from our failings but not to torture ourselves for them.
Accept yourself as you are – as you were made and as you are meant to be. Self improvement, self maintenance is always important but underneath we need to accept who we are and just work on being the best version of ourselves possible. Like I’ve mentioned in previous posts, there is no limit to what we can learn, similarly there is no limit to how we can improve ourselves. Personally I believe this to be an ongoing ‘work in progress’, so self-acceptance is vital. And it will certainly make you feel happier! Happier about yourself and therefore happier in life.
This topic is so important and relatable for many people in an age where we seem to constantly strive for perfection, I’m including the link from the Action for Happiness campaign on the matter as I believe it to be incredible well written and beneficial: